Hey there cats and kittens! And away we go!
I don’t know about you but it’s been one rough week for me. I won’t bore you with the details so instead, I’ll bitch about a rude and insensitive comment made to me on…where else but Facebook!
I posted a status about my darling baby cat coming home from being in the hospital. Yes, I’m one of those people. You probably can’t tell from my witty crime blogs but my pets are basically my kids. And if you know me well, you know all their names. So it was a little annoying that a dude from high school was all “is this a cat or a kid?”
Really? Do you see any kids on my Facebook? No? There’s your answer. Then he was all, when are you going to have kids? I cannot tell you how much I hate this question. I’m in my 20s. Unlike most of the people from my class, I don’t have 10 kids from 10 different dads. I don’t have kids. And I don’t believe the be all and end all meaning of life equals having children. Yes, I’d like to have them one day. One day. Not today. Not even tomorrow. I’m not bringing a person into the world just because I want to dress something up.
I made some comment like when they don’t cost a lot of money. And it could have ended there but of course it didn’t. Because he had to be all, oh we are all getting old. Um, no. Women can have kids for a fairly long time. I’m not even at the “omg it has to happen soon or else” window of time. Like I said, 20s.
I don’t mind that question when it comes from loved ones. Because they literally care about my future. Random people trying to push other people into the parents club? Is it that bad that you need to recruit everyone else who has a free life? No, I don’t have to wake up at the ass crack of dawn to feed something. My pets have a bowl with food. A bowl with water. I can leave them alone too.
I just don’t get it. Plus it’s rude. Ask the question, go ahead. But let it be with my answer. If I want to be an older parent, that’s my choice. I don’t judge those who couldn’t figure out how to work a condom so don’t judge me. Luckily, there’s no pressure from my family to get on that boat. I’m glad because I’m pretty stubborn. Plus, really does anyone want me to have a kid right now? It would say the most horrid things. It would only quote Buffy and Harry Potter and say fuck at every other word. It would probably bring about the end of the world or create some hellmouth.
And who wants that to happen? Not me. Not yet anyways.